I come back to the topic of Facebook and relationships A LOT. Only
because it's so prevalent in our lives these days--you can find almost
anything out about a person on social networking sites and see what's
happening to them on a regular basis. But I think don't think that's
helpful. It actually causes problems in dating.
I don't want a guy I've gone on 2 dates with to see what I'm doing
every day and see who is writing on my wall. I don't like that the guy
I'm involved with wants to know which of my "friends" I've slept with.
I don't like guessing what's happening with my guy and the girl who
just posted a picture on his wall. And I don't think it's healthy that
guys who were "interested" in me (or vice versa) can catch up with me
whenever they want to (except when I'm single. Ha!).
Being that
accessible just complicates things. I mean, in the end, we're only
human right? Having options makes being bad way too easy.
For instance, my friend Dillon just told me that she signed on to
Facebook and forgot to turn off the chat feature. Almost immediately, a
guy from high school sent her a message. They caught up for a bit--he
told her he's a cop, married, and his baby daughter is the joy of his
life. She told him she's a school teacher and just got a dog. Then he
said, "You know, I was in love with you in high school, but you were
always too good."
What was she supposed to respond with? "I never actually paid
attention to you in high school" or "Really? We should hook up now!"
Dillon obviously thought it was a weird conversation to get into so
she abruptly ended the conversation. There was no need to go any
further with it, especially because he had a wife and daughter.
And that's not the end of it. These days, you don't even have to
google a person before your first date to learn about them. You're
usually already "friends" on Facebook and can see their pictures from
past trips and events, the kind of people they associate with, what
line of work they're in, how old they are, their favorite books, and 25
random facts about them...
Even when you first meet a person, you don't have to guess if they
are single or not, just check out their relationship status. What's
that say? I highly recommend not getting involved with people who even
bother using the "It's Complicated" relationship status. Why share that
information?
The only thing I guess that's helpful about Facebook and relationships is that it's hard to hide bad things and lie?
I don't know...what are your thoughts on it?
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